In-her-shoes

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Pregnant and unmarried; of course it was not planned- it may or may not be a mistake, it may or may not be carelessness, it may or may not be foolishness but is it wrong? It is questionable how we are conditioned to respond to pregnancy; we are elated when a married woman is pregnant. The birth of a child is celebrated. However, an unmarried pregnant woman is looked down with contempt and shame. The answer to her pregnancy is abortion.

Abortion has never been universal. Is it right or wrong? You have to be in-her-shoes to know the answer. The society shakes its head in disdain at the thought of a child out of wedlock. It is not even a child for them; it is an illegitimate or a bastard.

For a pregnant and unmarried woman to make the conscious choice and not opt for an abortion speaks volume. She has accepted her responsibility even if her partner has washed his hands. She has accepted to change her priorities despite the hardship she will face. She is not ready for it but is confident she will learn. She has braced herself for the humiliation she will face from society. She is strong to fight for what she thinks is right even if the world has turned its back. She has no regrets instead patiently waits to love and protect the child.

The child may not have a father’s name but will proudly carry a remarkable woman’s name. A single mother is a brave and honorable woman. The only question I have for the society that raises a finger at her character, “If and when you are in-her-shoes what conscious choice will you make?”

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